EST. AUGUST 17, 1991

My life has come full circle once again and I’m completely grateful to God.  In many ways, I feel like I’ve matured dramatically this past year, more than ever before. It’s not just about getting older; it’s about the new insights into my life and the kind of life I want to live that I’ve recently discovered. It definitely is a good time to be alive.

The closer I got to my birthday, the more I found myself reflecting on my past, not to dwell on, but to learn from the choices I’ve made and decipher the tools I need to live a better quality of life. So, in that vein, below are a few tips I’ve learnt so far in living my life: on love, life, family and friends.

ON LOVE:

God is the embodiment of love and learning God’s love is the first step to understanding anything about love. So I always try to remember that God loves me, no matter what. While that isn’t a ‘carte blanche’ to do whatever I feel like regardless of the consequences, it’s something that gives me hope in my darkest times and moments of despair. It gives me the strength to love, when I don’t feel like loving others, or even myself and it gives me the courage to face my fears and adversities head on.

Love breathes life and the absence of love definitely darkens a soul. That’s why it’s so important to never stay in a place where you don’t feel loved. Beware of people that love you only when the good and unique bits and parts of you are missing from you. Those who love you when you’re in pain and things aren’t going well for you. Those who never seem to be around when you’re happy and things are going well for you. Those are not people that love you. You need to avoid such people at all cost!

ON LIFE:

It’s always about you, so whatever you do, remember that you matter most in your life.  It doesn’t mean that you get to be selfish, egotistic and narcissistic – no. It just means that you need to make sure that whatever choices you make in life are right for you. Your  loved ones and profession/career are all part of your life, but not your whole life. Yes, they will, as they should, influence how you live your life, but never live your life for them because you will resent it eventually!

You’re never too old to start living the type of life you really want, so make a decision today to live a better life. Also, guide those around you, especially children, so they can live their best lives too. Ask them ‘who would you like to be when you grow up?’ or ‘what kind of life would you want to live when you’re older?’ instead of ‘what do you want to be when you grow up?’ I truly believe that these questions will get them thinking about the kind of person they want to be and the quality of life they hope to live. It helps them to evolve and think about their future in terms of more than just a job or profession.

ON FAMILY :

They truly are your first love. You experience your first true unconditional love from your family. I understand that some are unlucky and learn their first heartbreak from their family, but that’s okay. Your family isn’t just the unit you were born into, or those you share blood ties with; your family is also your tribe, your crew, your squad. The people that you give love to and get love freely from. You need this in your life; it’s the core unit that helps to make your life more meaningful and more fulfilled.

Your family gives you your sense of identity. Whether it’s from nature or nurture, you find parts of yourself in your family. They give you the opportunity to be who you are, in every way possible. They’ve basically known you your entire life or you’ve known them their entire life (it simply depends on who’s older).

Your family is your support unit. They provide dependability, honesty, and genuine love and care. They’ll be with you through ups and down, thick and thin, light and dark. These are people you don’t have to pretend with because they accept you for who you are. Family love is the purest kind of human love I believe you can experience.

ON FRIENDS:

If you get this right, they truly end up becoming your family. And you should love them right, with all of your heart. Because once you’ve found the right friends, you’re made for life.

They understand you in a way that your family or even you, might not not understand you completely. While family love is the purest you can experience, love of and from your friends should be the easiest. Yes, you’ll have intellectual and even stupid arguments and fights, but at the end of the day, you’ll always find your way back to each other. If you don’t, then there was a problem with that friendship and it wasn’t meant to be.

Your friends should grow with you. Obviously, everyone gets older, but once again, it’s not about age. It’s about maturity, drive and ambition. Surround yourself with people that have a plan for the future, and people that you can plan a future with. Get out of the rut of turning your relationships romantic too early, because that makes you lose them when things get sour. It’s okay if you need to separate yourself from them to sort yourself out, they’ll understand. And if they don’t, you really don’t need to be around them anyway.

 

My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style.

– Maya Angelou

 

Photography by @famous_isaacs

Extra edits by me @mignolly

Thanks for reading my post guys 🙂

Love, Mignolly

xoxo

 

Dress: Topshop

Sandals: Calvin Klein

Bag: Star by Julien McDonald

4 Comments

  • chika aka browne_sugar007 August 19, 2018 at 10:48 pm

    Nice post.
    Lovely outfit dear…wishing you a happy birthday once again.
    Cheers dear

    Reply
    • MIGNOLLY August 22, 2018 at 8:58 pm

      Merci mon amie…thanks for the birthday wish once again xx

      Reply
  • Elika August 29, 2018 at 4:54 am

    Nice post,i love the outfit and the place too..The earrings are goals

    Reply
    • MIGNOLLY August 29, 2018 at 7:30 pm

      Thank you…I absolutely enjoyed shooting there 🙂

      Reply

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